Comments on: Betrayal

By: Michael

Michael — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 17:11:08 +0000

I was betrayed in a relationship. I fell in love for the first time in my life. I was 46 years old, divorced for two years after a 23 year marriage. My marriage was loveless and cold. We had children which I stayed to be a father to. When they were 16 and 19 I filed for divorce. Then I met my a woman on a business trip. I gave her my unconditional love, which she abused almost from the start. We never married. We did live together for ten years with the last three being the three worst years of my life. I exited the relationship and I repressed the memories of her betrayal. However, when I became catholic almost two years past I re-examined my life for my first confession. It brought back the memories. I want to forgive her but I cannot stop hating her. Is there hope I can recover? I am tired of hating which is impairing my relationship with God and I am tired of obsessing over what cannot be changed. I have tried therapy (20-25 sessions) and prayer to no avail. Any suggestions? I will not quit trying to recover. If any gift God gave me it is perserverance.

By: justme

justme — Mon, 26 Sep 2011 01:22:20 +0000

sadly, i am in the same boat as you, dude or dudette. i love God but refuse to trust anyone ever. even Christians. although i do trust some believers in the philippines cause they are real. american christians, no thanks.

By: Barbara

Barbara — Tue, 09 Nov 2010 12:27:48 +0000

The bottonline I betrayed myself. I have been married several times and only until the last marriage did I realize what I was doing to myself, running away from my abusive mother, and myself. I knew behavior I did not feel comfortable before I married each time. They behaviors were similar to my mother. I was drawned to them as if something was familiar. Now I am 73,living alone by choice and I am just adjusting with the help of supportive women.During that time I kept in touch with my higher power, but now I am closer than ever, first out of fear and now because it calm and peaceful. Recently I faced another challange and I prayed and prayed, but I got the strength to face it and do my part to resolve it. I am so grateful for your article for I know I am not alone.

By: Rita

Rita — Thu, 12 Aug 2010 21:34:41 +0000

I just been laid off from a “Christian” company, in the most coldest, uncaring and benign fashion possible. I thought my boss was my friend, and yes it hurts to lose your job – BUT it was the way it happened. No one said, “I hate this happened” or “I’m sorry”; NOTHING – but we are loosing money and we have to let you go.

Never mind we were friends and you joked with me two days before about laying me off. Never mind I was lied to repeatedly as well or prayed many hours and cried over my bosses’ family and health. Only 5 in the office, and the owner never said one word.

You can not trust people and the “Church” that Paul talked of does not exist. The world sees it and knows it and they want no part of the hypocrisy.

I am done with people. I was angry at God for the past 3 days and started to doubt His existence again(there was a time I did not believe in Him), but at the end of the day God is all I have. I am not saying not to allow people in your life – that will have to be your decision.

I have come to the conclusion you can not trust anyone and realize most people truly do not care. I have been feeling like this long before this happened; but I slipped. It will not happen again. Satan almost had me turning against God, but I WONT do it. So remember, it’s your relationship with God that really matters.

I will not be back on this site; I’ve said what I felt need to be said. Many will disagree and I understand – but for those who feel like I do, don’t throw away your belief in Jesus. I almost fell for it – I can live alone on this earth without relationships or love. But it would be a shame for me or you deny Jesus and spend an eternity in hell.

By: Madeline

Madeline — Sun, 05 Apr 2009 08:11:47 +0000

In our yearning to be loved and give love…sometimes we become blind, or through no fault of our own, are just outrightly betrayed as this article states. But through betrayal we learn to accept our humanness and the humanness of others. And YES we can become wiser about our expextations in relationships. But we can love again, we can take a risk to love again…be it based on wiser observations…but even then, God will ALWAYS catch us should we fall. Let us take a risk again…but let us most of all find ways in making ourselves able to receive the greatest love of all…..God’s unshakable love for us!!!