Comments on: Good News for Co-Dependent Christians

By: marianne

marianne — Thu, 17 Nov 2011 15:13:12 +0000

I have been codependant for a lot of years and actually find the labels a little overwhelming but true. My husband has a borderline personality disorder and the dance has come to an end for me. I have left-not without a lot of guilt and need to restructure my thinking about self and needs. A great help has been Joyce Meyers. Battlefield of the Mind. Honesty in all of this is very hard because we have been so used to living a lie. The end result is going to be worth it as the journey gets easier and the load lighter. Thank yo Jesus.

By: Laura

Laura — Sat, 01 Oct 2011 04:24:32 +0000

Anna, I don’t have any suggestions. I chose to leave this past month. I still struggle with those feelings. Know you aren’t alone!

By: Anna

Anna — Thu, 08 Sep 2011 18:17:18 +0000

Thanks for a comprehensive article and focusing on recovery. I`m a codependent living with a self centered husband . I`m scared to say no , scared to stay and scared to leave. Any suggestions?

By: Ellen

Ellen — Sun, 05 Jun 2011 05:01:01 +0000

This article is a great start to put one’s faith in perspective. I wish that the church I went to when growing up would have taught the importance of boundaries instead of making us feel guilty for having our own needs.

When fulfilling your own needs or helping with the needs of others, it should never be done out of selfishness.

I like the mentioning of “home base”. That for me means a place to recharge my batteries, so that I am able to do “more” for others. I later have heard others say that one needs to take care of the self before one can care for others.

Thank you for this article. It will definitely be worth reading over and over again.

By: Joshua

Joshua — Sat, 07 May 2011 20:10:07 +0000

Thank you for the article Jason. I am the oldest kid who grew up in an alcoholic home. I always felt like it was my responsibility to take care of the dysfunction of my family. And even after the Lord saved me I realized I was still very much co-dependent in my thinking. I had some “spiritual/church” activity every night of the week and my “no” muscle was very weak. It wasn’t until I was discipled by my friend’s mom that I learned to set healthy boundaries. You’re right, it is so much better to have the walls of your city built up and give out of joy not guilt or shame. Thanks!

By: rekha

rekha — Sat, 07 May 2011 08:58:48 +0000

Hi,
my name is Rekha.am reborn christion.
you know some how i always feel like i should be a good christion and thats why so many people in the church and out side also interning in my life n i have no control at all.
i feel i can not stop it but am not happy in this,some time i decided that i will be myself but the same moment i feel am being not good in Godly prospective.And if i just keep going like this i feel being a christion is a burden on me.
i dont know what to do.some how i feel like i should maintain very good distance with every one.please help me

By: Teresa

Teresa — Tue, 19 Apr 2011 20:13:20 +0000

What are our basic needs? What is serving out of guilt? or shame? What is a compulsion to serve?

By: Sukamto

Sukamto — Sat, 09 Apr 2011 05:53:31 +0000

Thanks,it’s encouraging.

By: Marianne74

Marianne74 — Fri, 06 Aug 2010 02:10:57 +0000

I thank God for this article. I am a Christian in recovery for co-dependency. I am grateful for any new revelation that encourages me on my journey!

By: MICHELLE

MICHELLE — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 03:23:21 +0000

Thank you. This article is freeing -a real blessing to me.